Self-harm can be an attempt to manifest the need that is already there. Being so depressed that your view of yourself is so low that hurting yourself is not an insult to yourself is enough reason to get help; adding a cut or burn to your body does not heighten your need for help.

Exploring what your race means to you can help you feel more connected to yourself and others. Instead of being ashamed, there could be meaning. Instead of feeling condemned, you could feel a sense of rich (which can include pain with insights) history of who you are.

Counseling will address your personal, immediate needs and look into how the problems came to be problems so that you can navigate your future.

What to do next has less to do with if it is the right next step and more to do with actually taking the next step.

Here are 6 reasons to consider working on your relationship before you get married.

Repairing a relationship starts with “I am sorry that I ____” and “I can start to see some of the ways that I hurt you (and our family) by my action(s)”.

Taking the opportunity to invest in your most important relationships will make them more important. When relationships become crucial to your daily living, you will protect them more intently in intense or threatening situations.

While the loss requires tender and gentle processing, it also yields connection. Being stuck in the grief that death, traumas, injustice, and change brings- the grieving process is not in vain because it is intended to bring you close to others around you.

Looking to eliminate codependency will take mindful attention to intentions and honoring of self. 

The addictive behavior of drinking, having sexual experiences or excessive purchasing will all become normal or numbing at some point. As one spends more time in the addictive behavior or with the addictive substance, the more thoroughly integrated the problem becomes in someone’s life.