Sometimes we seek counseling before life transitions like marriage, having a child or before a job promotion that involved moving across the country. Sometimes we seek counseling after something happens to or around us.
Both types of reasons seek to make sense of our values, needs, and experiences.
Reviewing what is about to happen, or what has happened, is one of the most powerful reasons to go to counseling.
Reviewing with the help of an outside party (counselor, friend, pastor/church leader, community member) prompts you to explain in detail what your experience was. Some of this is helpful because we overlook our own experience and summarize it with “it was good” or “it was bad” instead of the nuanced moment to moment changes and details.
Reviewing with someone else also activates your mirror neurons in your brain, which helps you feel loved, connected to and important. Mirror neurons prompt us to cry when we see other’s cry and laugh when we see other people smile or laugh, hence why they are called mirror neurons.
The experience of being connected to and known yields the feeling of closure and or healing in areas of wounding and brokenness. This all comes through reviewing.
If you want more information about how to review your experiences without shame, you can check out my Blog post here. Or you can request a session to have a personalized, relational experience by clicking this link.
Too Long/Didn’t Read: In counseling, you will review what has happened in/around you. Doing this activates different parts of your memory and brain, reducing the intensity and increasing connectedness which yields healing.
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