Domestic Violence (DV) + Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)
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If you’re in an abusive relationship, you are not alone. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224. You can also visit the website.
DV + IPV Defined
“Domestic violence (also referred to as intimate partner violence (IPV), dating abuse, or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.
Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate. People of any race, age, gender, sexuality, religion, education level, or economic status can be a victim — or perpetrator — of domestic violence. That includes behaviors that physically harm, intimidate, manipulate or control a partner, or otherwise force them to behave in ways they don’t want to, including through physical violence, threats, emotional abuse, or financial control”.1
Do you feel controlled, afraid of your partner?
If so, this is one of the signs that your relationship is violent and that you could be in a violent relationship. One occurance of feeling controlled and/or afraid of your partner is one thing, especially if this happened situationally (ex: after a car accident and they were stressed, after a long day at work, or after getting bad news). If there is a pattern of this behavior, reach out for help today.
REsources
San Diego Specific:
San Diego Access and Crisis Line: 888-724-7240 - Call or Text with someone in San Diego that can help.
California's Partnership To End Domestic Violence - Local and statewide resources for those in abusive relationships.
National Domestic Violence Resources:
Domestic Violence Support - Call or chat online.
Women’sLaw.org - Answers to legal questions in confidentiality.
Legal Services Corporation - Search for access to legal services in your area.
Action steps for safety
Get support from a trusted person in your life;
Make copies of all important documents and keys to car/home/resources;
Identify a safe place to go like a shelter, friend/family’s home;
Make a go-bag with all copies and essentials (eg. clothes, toiletries, extra cash);
Contact local authorities for safe distancing practices.