Perfectionism is pervasive, and a common driver for a lot of behavior if not kept in check. Without further ado, here are 5 signs that you may be a perfectionist:
You don’t start projects (or have difficulty starting projects) because you want to “do it right”;
You compare yourself to others easily (both terms of being better than and worse than the person you are comparing yourself to);
You set goals for yourself that are not achievable or the goals are evolving as you gain progress and you don’t ever accomplish the goal because it is changing as you work;
When you accomplish your goals or work its “not good enough” or you struggle to feel good about what you have done;
Your self-talk is mostly negative.
So now what? Moving forward is tough for people who struggle with perfectionism because perfectionism is hard to resist. After all, perfectionists like to be perfect (or appear to be perfect). But wanting to appear to be perfect will hold you back from actually moving past perfectionism.
Focusing on what you have done well, and soaking up the accomplishment is a solid step to take. This can look like stopping projects when it is “good enough” instead of ‘perfect”.
You can also work on noticing what your internal self-talk looks like, and redirect negative self-talk with affirming, approving talk.
One last thought to think/pray/talk about: Why do you need to be perfect?
Too Long/Didn’t Read: Perfectionism is a mode of thinking and acting that is self-reinforcing; some perfectionistic thinking/acting will lead to more later on. Instead, try accepting yourself instead of trying to be perfect.
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