I say no sometimes because I know I am saying yes to others.
I practice Self-Care because it enables me (I’m filled up to be emptied and filled again and I can trust myself to fill myself up again).
I don’t have to agree with someone to love or receive love (we can be different and yet still together).
I don’t say: “I know how you feel” or “I understand how you feel”; Others know that I hear them because of how they feel heard and seen by me.
I make meaning of positive and negative experiences.
I show genuine gratitude in ways that I can genuinely show gratitude (don’t make things up).
I pause for 60 seconds a day (at least) to behold something I enjoy (smell the flowers).
I sleep enough each night.
I notice the way other people’s comments come across to me. When something makes me happy or hurtful or exciting, I have a sense of why, when, and what.
I say sorry quickly and thoughtfully. This is not because I want to get conflict over with but because I see ways that I have contributed to conflict and problems and want connection more than conflict so I say sorry for my wrongs against other’s (and I do not own other’s wrongs as my own).
I try to be uncomfortable or out of your element regularly to learn about myself and others.
I have difficult conversations sooner than later with fresh emotions to allow my true and genuine self to be seen, known, and valued.
Note: this is written in the first person part of speech not because these are rules that I (Grayson) am saying that I follow, but for the reader to engage with at a personal level by using I statements instead of displacing the experience to a third party. In other words, the I statements are meant to be reflective for the reader to engage with personally
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